Feelings can be deceptive. Sometimes, what we perceive as love may in fact be another emotion. But actions cannot be mistaken. So, rather than ask, “What is love?” we must ask, “Do I perform acts of love for my beloved?” and “Does my beloved perform acts of love for me?”
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
Exceptional specimen of womanhood
Remarkable lover and friend
I honour you today!
The flames of passion will never be extinguished between us.
Let our love flare brightly and bring you a wonderful birthday.
You are the reason I smile and why our love thrives across the miles.
May you have the happiest birthday ever!
I will wrap my arms around you the first chance I get
Get ready for a big birthday squeeze, lover!
I’m just wild about you.
I can’t say it enough
It gives me goosebumps just to think about it. *ouch*
Have a wonderful time on your birthday today, dearest love of my life.
All our memories together will never be taken away, no matter how old we get and how many birthdays pass by.
I will always be here for you.
Lover, you are everything to me.
Let me take a piece of the universe and offer it back to you, a humble gift on your birthday.
Even if I searched the universe, I wouldn’t find a more loving and wonderful person as you.
You make me happy and you never let me down.
I am proud to say that, I love you so much and thank you for who you are.
Rejected but still selected for the BEST.
Your heart was broken time ago and you still dwell in your past pain. Those who live in the past cheat themselves of benefits of the future. Wake up and move on.
You are permitted to cry tho.
You’ve been trying to act strong, like it doesn’t matter, acting like you’re not upset. You’ve been asking yourself privately, ‘God why did you allow this happen to me’
I pray right now, that the Lord transform your heart and make you a better being. May He give you the ability to trust again, the ability to forgive and to love again.
Forgive your past, trust God and move on. The best is waiting for YOU! REJOICE
It’s almost 10pm and my aunt will definitely complain about my coming home late. After a hectic day at work, I really don’t need her nagging. Walked into the sitting room, found her watching news at 10pm, I greeted her and she answered me and continued watching the news. That’s strange but I quickly ran to my room before she starts.
On getting to my room, my phone rang… yayyy!!” It was Chuks calling. Picked up the call… “sweet heart, how far Na?” … “Fine o, guess what?! She didn’t complain at all”….. “That’s good, sorry I delayed you. You know I always enjoy your company”…. “yea yea, any ways we will see in the office tomorrow”…. “Yes dear, good night dear. Don’t be late to get to the junction, I will not wait for you o”… “Don’t try me, like you have a choice. Goodnight… The phone goes off.
You are wondering who is Chuks? Chuks is my colleague at work, fine, tall and handsome. Met him when I was transferred to our branch in wadata. He was really nice and friendly, so we became friends. He lived close to my aunt’s house, we went to work together most times, he would always take me outing and even when I was at home, we would chat all day. My aunt and her husband already met him. They even thought we were dating but we were just friends.
Two weeks later, Chuks introduced a young lady to me as a friend and he was always going out with her, I started boarding buses and taxis to work; it was not funny. I later realized I had feelings for chuks, I was angry with him for cheating on me but really we were never dating to begin with.
Here are five lessons from this story
- Don’t get too close without any intention of dating/courtship. A lot of singles find themselves in such mistakes like this. You are in friendship with someone and then getting so close without asking each other what their intentions are. You must know why he’s getting close, not because you want him to woo you on time. Defining a relationship is required and important. If you cannot define it then disengage.
- Stop behaving like a Girlfriend if you are just a female friend. Why would you be playing the role of a wife if you are just a friend? If he is not more than a friend then do not give out the benefits of being a husband. Actions trigger emotions, so be careful how you relate with a friend.
- You don’t assume someone is single and searching. You have to base your emotions and feelings on fact and not assumptions. You must be certain about the purpose behind your coming together. Often times, people do not know each other well enough before hanging out. If Chuks was truly her friend and dear friend, why shouldn’t she be aware that he is in a relationship? That appears that someone must have been pretentious in the friendship. Friends don’t pretend, they discuss everything and anything.
- Don’t not get emotionally attached before you define your relationship. It is better we define who we are in a relationship before emotions set in. And also, we must understand that feelings of love are not the same as love in itself. You may develop feelings for someone that you see often, chat with, eat together and even play together as often. Hey, that’s not true experience of love. Love is a decision between two people who have defined their goals and objectives.
- Attention brings affection. Whoever has your attention will automatically have your affections. If you are not really going to date someone then stop all the attention. Singles sometimes, are engaged in a relationship without realizing it. Do not give so much of your attention to someone who is not going to be more than a friend to you.
Dear readers, in your own opinion; Did Chuks truly cheat on her?
The world does everything it can to make singles feel they are inferior.
Note: Singleness is what God started with.
God established singleness before He established marriage.
Marriage was established on the foundation of singleness.
You remember, Adam was first and foremost single.
It is a fallacy to think or feel that you are not complete without being married.
For desperation, some people jump into relationships they are not ready for.
A lot of people step into relationships because they thought they had to be married to be accepted in the society.
Singleness is not being lonely.
Loneliness is a decision.
The word ‘’alone’’ in the Webster dictionary equates singleness with being alone.
Unfortunately, a lot of singles run away from being single.
God established singleness before marriage.
God never intended for you to even get married until you became single.
Some people got married to partners who were not ‘single’.
The word ssingle’ means to be unique, separate and whole.
If you are lonely, then, it is as a result of your decision to be lonely.
You do not need a man or woman to make you fulfilled in life.
You do not need a man or woman to make you complete and unique.
You are already fulfilled with your relationship with Jesus Christ.
Again, let’s read Genesis 2:18
You can be alone but not lonely.
Loneliness is not being alone. It is a decision.
Loneliness is fear. It’s a disease.
Singleness is a state of pursuit.
Singleness is not something we should run from.
If you are single; you are unique and whole.
You are single and okay.
Nobody can make you unique and whole but Jesus Christ.
Not even sex can bring fulfillment into your life.
Sex does not make you happy.
Sex will not make you unique, whole and fulfilled.
If a woman has not been single, unique and whole, she will let down her principles for any man; just to get married.
What the devil wants is for you to feel insecure and inferior.
You are important to the Kingdom of God. God made you for a purpose.
People think marriage can change someone from who they are.
Marrying someone does not change them from who they are.
If he or she tells lies before marriage, he or she will most probably continue same after marriage.
If you marry someone who is insecure, your wedding ceremony would not change that.
Help meet for him… Building The Foundation of Friendship
God is saying; I am going to bring someone that will assist him. He didn’t say marry him. #Friendship
In other words: men should build friendship.
But unfortunately, today, majority put friendship aside and then jump into marriage.
You do not make a lover before a friend; you make a friend and then a lover.
Have you seen why majority of couples around us are not friends?
Avoid getting into a marriage relationship with someone you do not know deeply as a friend.
What God intended for us is to be able to build friendship.
The enemy is all out to destroy your image. Do not allow him.
Ladies: Do not think you have to lower your principles to get someone.
It’s just the devil strategy to make you feel unhappy just because you are single.
If there is no standard, there is no point searching for a help meet.
Ladies are the key to a man’s development, maturity and his growth.
Ladies: Help the men to grow by raising your standard.
When you stop raising your standards, you affect his growth process.
When you stop raising your standards, you stop him from being the man he’s supposed to be.
The growth of a man is in the woman. “I will make him a help meet”
God did not make Adam marry Eve. He brought Eve to Adam.
God will bring people your way, it’s your responsibility to choose or decide.
I pray that the enemy will not destroy your uniqueness in Jesus name.
Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived; Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge and others, including LOVE. One day it was announced to all of the feelings that the island was going to sink to the bottom of the ocean. So all the feelings prepared their boats to leave.
Love was the only one that stayed. She wanted to preserve the island until the last possible moment. When the island was almost totally under, Love decided it was time to leave. She began looking for someone to ask for help. Just then Richness was passing by in a grand boat. Love asked, “Richness, can I come with you on your boat?” Richness answered, “I’m sorry, but there is a lot of silver and gold on my boat and there would be no room for you.”
Then Love decided to ask Vanity for help who was passing in a beautiful vessel. Love cried out, “Vanity, help me please.” I can’t help you”, Vanity said, “You are all wet and will damage my beautiful boat.” Next, Love saw Sadness passing by. Love said, “Sadness, please let me go with you.”
Sadness answered, “Love, I’m sorry, but, I just need to be alone now.” Then, Love saw Happiness. Love cried out, “Happiness, please take me with you.” But Happiness was so overjoyed that he didn’t hear Love calling to him. Love began to cry. Then, she heard a voice say, “Come Love, I will take you with me.”
It was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that she forgot to ask the elder his name. When they arrived on land the elder went on his way. Love realized how much she owed the elder. Love then found Knowledge and asked, “Who was it that helped me?” “It was Time”, Knowledge answered. “But why did Time help me when no one else would?” Love asked.
Knowledge smiled, with deep wisdom and sincerity, answered, “Because only Time is capable of understanding how great love is.”
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Tell me about you: I am a creative,dynamic, interesting, fun loving, music loving, God Loving person and I love to influence people positively especially with music
What do you do? Im an artist, graphics designer and brand consultant
Are you single? No
Are you searching? No
What are you looking for in a prospective partner? Someone interesting
What is your educational background? I studied computer science at Lead City University and Secondary school was in Caleb int’l college
What state are you from? Osun state
What do you have passion for? Lol… Music, design, photography,….its a long list but basically these
Do you believe in sex before wedding? Nope
Do you believe in real love? Yes I do
Would you like to share your genotype? Im an AA
Are you open for long-term relationship? Well yea
What is the one thing about yourself that you would like me to know? I never give up
When was your last relationship and how long did it last? Errrr…… two years ago, Lasted a year
What are you looking for in a relationship? Understanding, love, dynamism, support, fun
What do you think is the most important value in a relationship? Listening to each other, like really listening
Do you want to marry or have you ever been married? Of course I wanna marry, lol. Im no Pope
What do you look for in a husband/wife? Understanding, patience
Do you want/do you have any children? Absolutely
What are you most proud about? Growing in faith and believe
Is religion important to you? Yes it is
Do you believe in love at first sight? Not really
What is your most treasured possession and why? My mind, because that’s the engine room of …….. everything
What is your favorite month of the year and why? December because it’s a fun month and also my birth month
Which is your favorite book/movie? Too many of them ooo…lol
Which is the one job in the world that you would love to do? creative director/art director
Which is your favorite music and your favorite singer/band? I have no real favs though I like John Legend and Ed Sheeran
Do you like animals/keep pets? Not really
How do you spend your spare time? Writing, Playing my guitar, designing, hanging with friends and playing games
Where do you see yourself in five years’ time? Top Creative director and artist with major hit songs, inspiring people around the world
If you could travel back through time, what single mistake would you correct in life? What are the deepest regrets of a person? Errrr……. Not sure I have any but I would correct certain things for other people around me that need it
Who was your hero, as a child? David in the Bible…lol
If you won a lottery, how would you spend your millions? Tithe, give some out, invest…
Which was the first crush you ever had? Ahhh…….that was primary school ooo. Don’t wanna mention names joor
What makes you laugh/cry? I have friends that crack me up sometimes. I don’t really cry but maybe I get teary when I see people going through very difficult situations
If you have friends coming over, what would you cook? Indomie or no food..lol
Describe your perfect holiday. Resort, hotel reservation, museums, concerts, beach, road trip and lotsa dancing. J
Which T.V. program would you never miss? Im not much of a TV person
What adjective would a close friend use to describe you? Dynamic
If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be? Paris, France
Who is your favorite actor/actress/celebrity and why? No favourites really…
Who is your favorite sportsperson? Lionel Messi
What is your favorite sporting activity? Football
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Tell me about you: My Name is Serah Kassim, A student of Botany ,400 level in the University of Lagos,
Oluwole: What do you do apart from schooling?
Serah: I am a fashion designer.
Oluwole: Are you single?
Serah: Yes, at least I’m not married yet
Oluwole: Are you searching?
Serah: No I am not searching
Oluwole: What are you looking for in a prospective partner?
Serah: Loves God, down to earth and a good dresser..
Oluwole: What is your educational background?
Serah:I attended command children school Yaba, Command secondary school Ipaja…
Oluwole: What state are you from?
Serah: Ogun State.
Oluwole: What do you have passion for?
Serah:Making people around me happy
Oluwole: Do you believe in sex before wedding?
Serah:this is deep ,can we just skip this. Lol
Oluwole: Do you believe in real love?
Serah :yes I do,its beautiful.
Oluwole: Would you like to share your genotype?
Serah: Loool why? Are you looking for a match? Naahh. Lol
Oluwole: Are you open for long-term relationship?
Serah: Noo, maybe a short one thou!!! Loool
Oluwole: What is the one thing about yourself that you would like me to know?
Serah:that I am from Ijebu Ode but I’m not stingy
Oluwole: When was your last relationship and how long did it last?
Serah:old things are passed away and all things have become new.
Oluwole: What are you looking for in a relationship?
Serah: Committment,and a Funlover.
Oluwole: What do you think is the most important value in a relationship?
Oluwole: Do you want to marry or have you ever been married?
Serah: Looool obviously yes I wanna marry and I have never being married.
Oluwole: What do you look for in a husband/wife?
Serah:Potentials and definitely husband material
Oluwole: Do you want/do you have any children?
Serah:Loool and I wanna get married
Oluwole: What are you most proud about?
Serah: my ….? Lol
Oluwole: Is religion important to you?
Serah: Yes it is.
Oluwole: Do you believe in love at first sight?
Serah:I Honestly dont
Oluwole: What is your most treasured possession and why?
Serah: My Mum? Because she’s simply amazing.
Oluwole: What is your favorite month of the year and why?
Serah:March because I own it !!!
Oluwole: Which is your favorite book/movie?
Serah:id not say have got a favourite movie because they keep getting tight but I do love the Fast and Furious series and now Wedding Ringer is on!!
Oluwole: Which is the one job in the world that you would love to do?
Serah:An air hostess.
Oluwole: Which is your favorite music and your favorite singer/band?
Serah:don’t call me local but I do love the afro pop and it’s Wizkid, that nigga is good baba can sing..
Oluwole: Do you like animals/keep pets?
Serah:no,the ones that are beautiful are wild and the ones you can keep as pet are ugly
Oluwole: How do you spend your spare time?
Serah: SLEEPING!!!! Most times
Oluwole: Where do you see yourself in five years’ time?
Serah:wow that’s a tough one but I should have being done with project SK and maybe married and pregnant also, heheheheheh
Oluwole: If you could travel back through time, what single mistake would you correct in life?
Serah: What are the deepest regrets of a person?: that my grandma had married someone with a gene twin,so maybe my mum would have come out doubled and deepest regret : not seizing those opportunities that showed up.
Oluwole: Who was your hero, as a child?
Serah: Johnny Bravo, do not laugh.
Oluwole: If you won a lottery, how would you spend your millions?
Serah:shebi it’s my millions, leave it
Oluwole: stingy, ijebu people. Loool
Oluwole: Which was the first crush you ever had? : the Nigga has one leg now, so it died
Oluwole: What makes you laugh/cry?
Serah:good humor / deaths
Oluwole: If you have friends coming over, what would you cook?
Serah:for the Love of Amala
Oluwole: Describe your perfect holiday.
Serah: Being away with Loved ones
Oluwole: Which T.V. program would you never miss?:
Serah: Loool the Telemundo series..
Oluwole: What adjective would a close friend use to describe you?
Oluwole: If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
Oluwole: Who is your favorite actor/actress/celebrity and why?
Serah:Kevin Hart ;he is obviously good at what he does, nsepke etim :she definitely knows how to interprete roles and Wizkid, that nigga can sing.
Oluwole: Who is your favorite sportsperson?
Oluwole: What is your favorite sporting activity?
Serah:I don’t have one yet but I’d consider liking football they have pleentty money Looool
Nice time with you Serah, you’re such an awesome lady. Thank you for your time.